Comparing mind is hella invasive sometimes. Call that ish out for what it is: a habit, a delusion of ego and separateness.
Lately, the comparer has been running its mouth on where i am in my entrepreneurial journey, forgetting that “overnight success” is also a delusion. i know that i’m giving away my power to the comparer when i start to feel ungrateful, impatient and frustrated with the flow of my life.
Times like these call for #reminders like these. ✋🏾 Refocus back to you; reflect on what you are doing and why you’re doing it- write it all down if you have to, bring your Purpose to the surface. Review the list of all the successes and recognize your growth, do you see that it’s abundant?
And only then, revisit the content of what comparing mind was using against you. Revisit it to excavate the wisdom in it; what’s it saying about your values and your dreams? Dream up + keep saluting the sun 🌞
How do you keep comparing mind at bay? ...
When you go through a hard life...
When everything seems to oppose you..
When you feel you cannot bear even one minute..
NEVER GIVE UP!! Because it is the time and place that the course will divert..
Great things never came from comfort zones.
Doing ego work, means viewing opinions neutrally. It means listening and processing from a space of openness rather than emotionally reactivity.
Emotional reactivity is the result of creating meaning around why people do things. The ego loves to label, the unknown is unsafe. We put ourselves and others in boxes.
Everyone has the right to their opinion. Those opinions often trigger unhealed emotional wounds from childhood. From that wounded perspective, we feel criticized even when that was not the intention of another. We react in the present from a place in our past.
To show up in this world, we have shift our relationship with the opinions of others.
I get so many messages from people filled with fear. People afraid to put themselves out there. People who are in life situations that are draining emotionally simply to avoid criticism from those closest to them. Sometimes they’re broken from criticism of strangers.
I can tell you first hand, it sucks. Sometimes I open a DM and I feel that instant- ouch. If the delivery is extra harsh I feel it energetically. Not fun.
When we get past the ego, we can view a message objectively and see the person’s pain. Without our ego screaming ‘this means something about us!’ we can hold space for our feelings as well as theirs.
Shifting your relationship with opinion is necessary to fulfilling your purpose. Ask: does this person have a life I want for myself? Does this person have emotional well-being? From there we can make choices based on feedback. Choice is empowerment.
If they don’t, focus on your intention. Align with your intuition. Access your highest self and wish them peace. Then find it for within yourself #selfhealers
Gratitude to @kitscounselling for creating this meme! Less work for me today 😉